truefaced

February 18, 2009 | 5 Comments

After about six people had recommended it, I finally got around to reading TrueFaced. To be honest with you (that is what this book is about, after all), I bought the book two years ago, after about four different friends had recommended it. So it sat on my to-read shelf for two years. And since honesty is the theme, I got around to reading it because it was short. It seemed liked an easy read that I could knock out pretty quick.

It wasn’t.

It’s not that the book was hard to read, but that it offered a great deal to reflect on. In many ways, it felt like a digest version of some of the transformation process that happens at Mars Hill Grad School. It is a thin book that deals deeply with the soul. It is an invitation to love yourself enough to be honest with yourself, and while you are at it, to be honest with God and others.

Here are a few thoughts from the book. They might help you see why it was a book the required me to stop and reflect often:

  • “Many of us remain so wounded and preoccupied with our own stuff that we concoct our own tepid, cheap dreams and call them God’s.” (pg 15)
  • “One of the really good gifts we could receive would be the ability to see where we are and how we got here. We need to see ourselves in our story, to see what causes and drives the responses that trip us up.” (pg 23)
  • “nothing in us can absorb sin. Nothing. Even when we are the one being sinned against, we still cannot handle sin, because sin done to us will always ignite the nature of the sin already in us.” (pg 25)
  • “Worse yet, I never experience the love of others because when I wear a mask, only my mask receives love! I sense I’m still not loved and self-diagnose that maybe my mask wasn’t good or tight enough.” (pg 30)
  • “So, if a relationship or community lacks grace, that relationship or community is low on trust. One smiply cannot nurture a realm of grace without trust.” (pg 62)
  • “The degree to which I let you love me is the degree to which you can love me, no matter how much love you have for me.” (pg 90)
  • I have to admit, I read this book several years ago, and I didn’t care for it. I felt like it was saying really obvious things. Perhaps I wasn’t in a place to take in what it had to say, but…I don’t know. I couldn’t get into it.

  • lacie

    my dad knows the guys who wrote this book, and he hangs out with them a fair amount. i never finished reading it – my mars hill book list still has priority. but for my dad, this book has been transformative, and his relationships with the guys who wrote it have been incredibly redemptive. so, i’m thankful for it. maybe i’ll finish reading it after i graduate…

  • thank you for reading and relating this book – i need to read more than just school stuff –

  • Worth

    Funny, I’m looking up at the bookshelf and I see that I have this book, and I picked up about 2 years ago myself, but still have not read it (Jake Mycke recommended it to me way back then). Time to get on it (after I finish 2 other ones of course). By the way, I just looked at the Rob Bell tour, Drops Like Stars, and I see that it comes nowhere near the northwest part of the country…but it does head to Austin in November. Got a spare patch of carpet I can take up stakes on?

  • Worth

    Correction – it doesn’t come anywhere near the northwest in 2009. Don’t know if I can wait that long, seeing as how the book comes out in August and I’ll already have read it by November.